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Collecting "Friends"

9/2/2014

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According to the Pew Research Center, 57% of American adults and 73% of those ages 12-17 use Facebook.  This is probably no surprise to anyone, but the way we engage “friends” is quite interesting.

The Pew study found that “Facebook users ‘like’ their friends’ content and comment on photos relatively frequently, but most don’t change their own status that often.” This may be because 36% of us are annoyed by people sharing too much information, and we’re equally annoyed at people posting things or pictures about us without our permission. Between our dislike of oversharing and posting without permission, it is no wonder we “like” posts more than we create them.

This makes us wonder about the nature of our relationship with our 338 Facebook friends (the average number for an adult—teens have far more!).  Before the rise of social media, it was perfectly obvious who a “friend” was. Friends lived down the street and sat in the same classroom. You worked with them and met them when they moved across the street. You knew their family and they knew yours. You walked similar paths and shared similar challenges.

But social media have scrambled “friendship.” Now “friends” can be electronic discoveries. It’s great to see what media “friends” have grown, cooked or where they have traveled. Sometimes we discover similar causes or concerns. Through our daily Facebook check in, we stay up to date with our network.  

Yet something is missing from these posts and pictures: genuine presence. Friends must be present to each other, fully present. Not always in person, of course. But once made, true friendship endures. Hundreds of electronic friends can be “unfriended” with just a click.

Social media certainly helps to be in vivid touch with people already “friended.” And social media can help to expand the circle based on common commitments and convictions. But genuine friendship needs physical presence. That’s when people truly discover, truly share, truly wrestle with challenges and celebrate triumphs.

At their best this is what congregations do. They build strong ties based on shared experience. Even more, congregations can shape experience, building common commitments and sharpening shared values. Even more, congregations alone can build hope. 


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An Unusual Turn in Belonging

8/25/2014

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Belonging can no longer be presumed. There are countless people who are unsure where or how they might belong. Yet there also are signs that people who have felt left out are taking initiative.

Witness the rise of so-called atheist “churches.” In its August 4, 2014 issue, Time described the popularity of such groups, even in the “Bible Belt” of the Deep South. Simply put, there is a movement of atheists to assemble regularly at local levels. 



Atheists, who deny the existence of a deity, and agnostics, who rest on their doubts, are less than ten percent of the population. They argue their ranks are larger and growing. The reasons they give skirt belief in God or not.

 Atheism’s complaint is the failure of Christians to live up to their own ideals. The love of God revealed in Jesus is undone in churches. Atheists and agnostics say their group has no doctrine or guilt, no hierarchy or moral freight.

 The churches must take this seriously. To offer genuine belonging, the churches must return to their ideals. These include an emphasis on difference. People at all stages of life, and of belief, must be welcomed.

Despite their avowed openness, atheist “churches” succumb to one of the shortcomings of people who seek to belong today: they find enclaves for those who only think alike. Churches of the more familiar sort also succumb if they raise doctrinal obstacles to belonging.

Instead, the Christian marks of belonging center on the love of God revealed in Jesus for all people. Difference is embraced. All are welcome.

A choir member once told me he never recited the Creed in worship; he did not believe it. Defiantly he asked what I thought of that. I said the only thing I could say: “You are welcome.” 


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